Why do guys expect girls to be flawless.
You want us to look good but you hate when we wear makeup
You love it when we eat but you want flat stomachs
You complain when we take too long to get ready but you want us to look good.
Why don't you understand flaws come with life, no one is going to come out of puberty with perfect skin, amazing hair, a great body without any flaws.
[ I personally experienced this myself, I'm 5'3 103 pounds, yet I have stretch marks over my breasts, behind my knees. I've also got scars from past acne. is it going to go away? no.]
Can guys realize their heads are deep down in the sand? Woman are NOT TV stars, we aren't in the makeup room for an hour getting 3 people who have years of experience applying makeup, and 2 others who also have years of experience doing our hair.
Do you realize that we try SO hard just to keep up with those standards, it makes us look selfish and shallow but that's what you are attracted to, if you see two girls walking down a hall and one looks amazing and the other not so much, who are you going to look at first. We understand this, thus why we try SO hard to compare ourselves, so much so girls are willing to go under the knife.
You expect us to always remain girls, we age just like you and with that age flaws come up, those flaws are also not looked nicely upon, I always see this '' anti aging cream '' and wonder why someone made it, what was the purpose, you are still going to age so why bother spending money on something – oh wait, guys. (reasons above)
I know this probably makes no sense to any guy reading this, and I can't say '' put yourself in our shoes for a minute ''.
Why are guys so shallow, why are they so immature, so in denial ?
Suggestion:
Emily C,
You bring up some very good points… I'm almost twice your age, and I still have to deal with some of those things.
What you DO end up learning 15 years down the road is:
a) Guys will remain immature for a while longer… and some of them never grow out of the "superficial looks" obsession. That's fine… those aren't the guys you want for a long-life partnership anyway.
b) You must learn to let go and not be hung up in the things you cannot be. Sure we can dye our hair, wear our make up a little differently, and that's ok, but you should not go to any extremes you are not comfortable with or that are potentially unhealthy.
and most importantly
c) You have to be comfortable with yourself. BE YOU. Confidence, more than anything else, is what ultimately will attract someone to you. If someone doesn't like you for who you are, then they are not for you. That goes for girls, guys, co-workers, whatever… I say this, as I sit at my professional job, wearing blue hair. No, I'm not kidding.
LOVE YOURSELF GIRL! If those petty boys don't like what they see… that's THEIR problem. You will find someone that will be attracted to you because of you. Forget the cute jock that's only attracted to the perfect little girls. If that's what they are into, then that's what they are into. You cannot change how they feel… all you can do is manage how YOU feel and how YOU choose to live life.
GO KNOCK 'EM DEAD!!
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